Ten Reasons Not to Watch Porn

Porn is one of the fastest growing industries in the world, bringing in nearly $13 billion annually in the U. S. alone. It’s also one of the most heavily searched terms on the internet. This obsession with porn isn’t just coming from outside the church walls.

It’s estimated that nearly 50% of Christian men and 20% of Christian women are addicted to porn. These numbers do not include those who are currently casual users (evidence shows that it’s only a manner of time before they move into the “addicted” category unless they seek help). 

Here are ten reasons why you should not watch porn:

  1. It abuses and objectifies women. Men and women were created in the image of God (Gen 1:27). This means that we are called to reflect and bear His image and character in this world. Humans are not mere animals but souls with a physical body that have dignity, value, and purpose. When you watch porn, it inadvertently causes you to see the person (often women) not as human being but as a sexual object. She becomes no different than a  sex toy in your eyes.
  2. It’s fake. If you’re married and/or have had sex before, this is obvious. Porn portrays scenarios in which women are always available, always willing to do anything and everything, and always excited to be with you.
  3. It alters your standard of beauty. You begin to view your spouse or potential spouse in an unfair manner, comparing them to who you’ve viewed in porn.
  4. It alters your standard of sex. By viewing porn, your standards for and expectations of sex are elevated to an unrealistic level. Instead of sex being a fun, joyful, and adventurous time with your spouse, it often is a let-down.
  5. It causes sex in marriage to become less-desireable and less-satisfying. Once you get married and begin having sex with your spouse, this becomes evident. Over time, you get bored with being with your same spouse. This is due to the fact that every night, you can have virtual sex with a different sexual partner. This mirage of newness causes you to find porn to be more exciting and satisfying for you than sex with your spouse.
  6. You lose control. Porn becomes your drug. You become so addicted to the sensation or high that you begin being controlled by your sexual desires. 
  7. It rewires your brain. William Struthers writes in his renown book Wired for Intimacy, “As men fall deeper into the mental habit of fixating on [pornographic images], the exposure to them creates neural pathways. Like a path is created in the woods with each successive hiker, so do the neural paths set the course for the next time an erotic image is viewed. Over time these neural paths become wider as they are repeatedly traveled with each exposure to pornography. They become the automatic pathway through which interactions with woman are routed…They have unknowingly created a neurological circuit that imprisons their ability to see women rightly as created in God’s image.”
  8. It turns sex into masterbation. Sex becomes about you instead of your partner, lust instead of love. Tim Keller compares the two, “Lust asks, ‘What can you do for me?’ Love asks, ‘What can I do for you?'”
  9. It separates you and your spouse. 56% of divorce cases involve at least one partner that is heavily into porn. 
  10. You’re never satisfied. Just like any drug, you always want more. You constantly seek out that first high but can never completely grasp it. And once you think you have it, the high is over and done with and it’s back to square one for you. Eventually, porn addicts lose control of their sexual desires and dig deeper into porn (abusive, child, etc) and sexual activity.
If you are struggling with pornography addiction, check out these resources:
-William M. Struthers' Wired for Intimacy
-Tim Chester's Closing the Window: Steps to Living a Porn-Free Life 
-Tim Challies' Sexual Detox: A Guide for Guys Who Are Sick of Porn
-Craig Gross' Eyes of Integrity: Living Free of Sexual Temptation
-xxxchurch.com
-Covenant Eyes
If you would like prayer in regards to this issue, please feel free to email 
me at tylerasaldana@gmail.com

3 thoughts on “Ten Reasons Not to Watch Porn

  1. This article does a really good job of recognizing 10 personal reasons not to use pornography, however it leaves out a lot of the non-personal reasons. It addresses “you” a lot, and while that’s important and beneficial, I think readers could also benefit from a more holistic view. If you put your spouse or future spouse first, it might help with one’s understanding on how this effects sex for both parties; further, you mention thinking of porn use’s effects on other men or women, but you haven’t addressed those trapped on the other end — within the porn industry. The sex industry is extremely complex, including issues with sex trafficking and drug use. Though the personal reasons are important and helpful, I think it’s also crucial to look beyond those issues and dig deeper into how, often times, porn stars are suffering the consequences as well. It’s not all (or always) fun and games. A seemingly ‘harmless’ act is really extremely selfish and harmful, as the consequences create an extensive chain reaction of hurt which tend to go unnoticed and unaddressed.

    1. Awesome! Thank you so much for your response and for sharing your thoughts! There are many more reasons than I gave to not watch porn including the reasons you’ve stated as well as many others. Thanks for your feedback and your passion on this topic! Praise God for giving you that heart!

  2. Pornography can be a serious addiction. I truly wonder if we really understand #7. I have read articles that explained the addiction to pornography is extremely similar to addiction to drugs in how a dependency is created to where the user literally feels like they need to view it. It’s heartbreaking. His subject never gets old. Thanks for this, Tyler. Grace and Peace to you, brother.

    John

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