How Christians Should Use Social Media

Let’s face it: we live in a social media world. Countless hashtags and seemingly pointless photos of meals, outfits and pets; this is our culture.

Here are four guidelines for Christians and their use of social media:

1. Use it

I know many Christians who don’t want to use social media.

They ask questions like, “Why do I need social media?”

The heart of this question is selfish. Instead, Christians should be asking, “How can I use social media to encourage others to love Jesus?”

In the New Testament, we see Jesus and Paul among other early church leaders using cultural means of communication to dialogue with and witness to the culture they lived within. For them, they spoke in marketplaces and temple courts and wrote epistles.

Today, Christians ought to use social media platforms such as Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube and blogging among others. These platforms should be used not only to empower their influence in a technological age, but to expand it as well.

2. Don’t abuse it

No one likes a nagger. Don’t use your social media to shove your faith in people’s faces.

Yes, I do encourage to post Christ-exalting content (quotes, blog posts, music, etc); however, be careful not to overload your nonChristian friends’ news feeds with Jesus. This is the equivalent of shoving your beliefs in some else’s face. Instead of just posting words about Jesus (verses, quotes, etc), post pictures of your life that display Jesus (time with your spouse, family, church, etc) and stories/articles of hope and redemption (blog posts, articles, etc).

Today, talk is cheap. People don’t want to simply read words about Jesus; they want to see those words and truths about Jesus come to life through our own lives.

Personally, I try to post pictures and stories about my wife and I and how we love and serve each other because Jesus loved and served us first. Often times, Christians know about Jesus but they don’t necessarily know how that can practically influence their lives.

Use social media as a means to display practical ways for Christian living.

3. Post with love

We all know those Christians on social media: they turn a friendly comment feed into a useless heated debate.

If you’re like me, you have to ask God for extra help to love those people.

When your non-Christian friends post content that isn’t in line with the truth of the gospel, be humble and gracious knowing that you 1) did nothing to discover the truth of Who Jesus is; He revealed it to you and 2) you don’t know everything.

I know it can be frustrating but sometimes we have to resist responding.

Ask my wife: there have been numerous times when I wanted respond but I withheld simply because I knew my response would not be rooted in love for that person but for my pride.

Before you click “enter” or “submit,” ask yourself if the purpose of your is response is loving and encouraging the other person/s.

4. Post with purpose

If you’re posting more pictures about your physical food than about your spiritual food, we have a problem.

Don’t waste your posts.

Whether you have 20 friends/followers or 2,000, you have a platform and a means to share and encourage people with Jesus.

Don’t take this lightly.

A Word of Warning

Although I do strongly encourage Christians to use and engage in social media, I do also understand that we should do so with caution. Just like anything else in life, social media can quickly turn from a beneficial instrument for redemption to a weapon of destruction to our joy in Jesus.

Be watchful and mindful of how much you use and engage with social media. Let social media not be your god but a platform to proclaim and display your God.


Five Lies About Manhood

Manhood is under attack and has been for quite awhile now. Here are five of the many lies our culture has been preaching to us about manhood:

Lie #1: Men are stupid. How many sitcoms or movies have a smart dad or son in it? More often than not, male figures are portrayed as dumb and inferior to female figures in regards to both intellect and wisdom. One of my favorite shows growing up was Boy Meets World (confession: I own every single season). The show is filled with classic characters and lines. However, the one major issue I have with the show is that almost every young man in the show is portrayed as dumb. On the flip side, when a young man does excel in school, the other boys mock and ridicule him (ex: Stuart Minkus). However, I do appreciate that the Gandalf-like character Mr. Feeny is not only the students’ scholastic teacher in the show but also their life teacher.

Lie #2: Men are unnecessary. The Pussycat Dolls 2005 pop hit, “I Don’t Need a Man” says it all. Today, men have been devalued from necessary to optional. Aside from the rather obvious procreational necessity for men, there are numerous other reasons why men are needed especially in the lives of children. Accord to the National Fatherhood Initiative, kids are more likely to live in poverty, be abused, possess emotional and behavioral issues, fall into crime, drug and alcohol abuse, suffer from childhood obesity, and struggle in school if their biological father does not stay married and committed to their family.

Lie #3: Men are unreliable. Unfortunately, this is the reputation and the expectation that many have of men. However, God calls men to lead, provide for, and protect their families and homes. Why would God call men to serve in such a role that they are incapable of doing? God calls men to rely on His power which then empowers them to be reliable to others.

Lie #4: Men are sex-crazy. “Men don’t want a relationship; they just want sex.” More and more, however, the case is being made that women are not much different. Sex and the City, Magic Mike, Fifty Shades of Grey; the sexual appetite of women is being put on blast throughout pop culture. Here’s the deal: sex is not bad. Both men and women were created with sexual desires. God created sex and gave it to married couples as a gift for the couple to both enjoy and grow closer to each other.

Lie #5: Men are physical, violent, fighters. The stereotype paints men as being obsessed with football, guns, camping, bacon, war, fighting and getting buff among other things. Real men can bench at least their body weight, right? Real men threaten to kick another man’s butt if that man gives him a dirty look, right? Wrong. I’ll just own this: if these are the attributes of a man, then I am the furthest from being one. Yes, real men are fighters but not necesarily the way we customarily envision them to be. Jesus actually calls men to lower their fists rather than raise them in the face of hostility and adversity (Matt 5:39). Towards the end of his life, Paul wrote to a young pastor that he mentored for years named Timothy to encourage him not to give up but to continue fighting the good fight of faith in Jesus (1 Tim 6:12). Instead of simply fighting in a physical manner, godly men are called to fight for justice and to stand up for the kingdom and cause of Jesus.

Waking Up Next to Your Worst Enemy

I love my wife. My wife loves me. But believe me: we don’t always feel that way.

Like every other couple in the world, we fight. Words spoken or unspoken, actions done or undone; we simply can’t always please each other. Sooner or later, we’ll have to drink the fight that’s slowly been brewing. If you’re like us, you sometimes let the tea bag sit too long, brewing a fight of harshly-tasting words and bitterness.

Occasionally, it can get bad, too. You argue about things that usually won’t matter in a week, say things you don’t mean, and speak to each other in rude and unloving tones.

Often in our fights, Erin and I are unable to resolve the issues at hand before bedtime. Sadly, we sometimes go to sleep back-to-back not only physically but emotionally and spiritually, too. It can feel like she’s not my wife but my biggest enemy.

Maybe this is you and your spouse. Or maybe you’re dating someone and date night can sometimes end in a goodnight fight rather than a goodnight kiss. Here are a few truths to keep in mind if you’re in a Christian relationship:

You’re not alone.

It’s a common occurrence in relationships: every couple fights. On the flip side, I would argue that if you and your spouse (or significant other if you’re single) don’t deck it out every now-and-then, you’re probably not honest about your feelings and not as close to each other as you may think.

Fights are not always “bad.”

Fighting isn’t always a bad thing; not resolving a fight is. Godly and loving couples are ones that can be brutally honest when needed. Throughout the bible, we see countless people express to God their anger and dissatisfaction with Him. And guess what: God allowed it. No, our thoughts and feelings may not always be correct. But sometimes they do need to be expressed rather than kept inside. After awhile, the unspoken thoughts and feelings build up and explode into fights that are bad, even relationally fatal. How can we know when to vocalize our thoughts and emotions and when not to?

The fight isn’t always worth having.

Pick your battles wisely. Not every thought in your head and feeling in your heart needs to come out of your mouth. When debating whether or not to vocalize thoughts and feelings to your significant other, ask yourself these two questions:

  1. Is my heart in a loving place?
  2. Am I vocalizing this issue/concern to benefit and strengthen my significant other and/or our relationship or am I simply trying to “win” the fight?

Love them.

Your spouse or significant other is not your enemy, sin is. For me, some of the fights I have with Erin have nothing to do with her and everything to do with my sin. God gives us spouses for the sake of edifying and encouraging one another. I know and constantly have to remind myself that Erin is not my worst enemy but my best support and encourager (aside from the Holy Spirit, of course). God’s intention for a couple’s fights is not for the couple to kill each other physically, emotionally, or spiritually; it’s for the couple to help each other kill the sin in their own hearts and become more and more like Jesus.

This is love, that in our fighting, we lay down our pride and agendas for the sake of our significant other’s growth in Jesus.